I grow them, Kathy and Laurie. In my opinion they are indestructible!
I grew them from seed. Hit rate was high (I dont know why they are so costly to buy a plants
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I planted out lots of them, and had lots over, which I neglected. The neglected ones just kept on going.
I didnt do anything to the ones outdoors - just left them in situ.
I cut out dead stems in early summer. They gave a wonderful show this year.
I think the instructions in yoiur book are good. However, you'll have to look at long stems all winter! I would try cutting them down to the lowest shoot on the stems, after flowering. At least they will be tidier looking, and will keep the plant active.
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